How much do you choose to be unhappy?
When you hold on to negative thoughts, feelings or habits, do you have choice?
Are you struggling with something that happened yesterday, last month or years ago?
It seems hard to believe that people actually choose to spend time worrying or dwelling negatively on things that can’t be changed and yet that is exactly what happens every single day. I’ve done it. You’ve done it. We’ve all had episodes in our lives where we’ve allowed negativity to steal the best of us.
If you’re holding on to negative thoughts right now … perhaps worrying about that job interview you messed up, or dwelling on the horrible things someone once said to you, or angry at yourself for acting badly in a heated moment, or thinking with regret about the things you should have done when you had the opportunity, and so on … then it’s time to have a clear out and let go of all the feelings and habits that don’t support you.
Start by being mindful of your self-talk … that inner dialogue that may be feeding your attachment to what has been and gone.
Every time a negative thought, feeling or habit rears its head, replace it with a positive. I’ve had many clients saying “yeh! right!!!”. The thing is, you don’t have to think a positive thought about that situation…..choose to give it a break and go somewhere else in your mind. Visualise a sun set, take a deep breath or appreciate nature. Whatever makes you feel good.
This will take some time and dedication but, as you become aware of the thoughts and habits that dominate your day, you can change your outlook and perspective. Importantly, you can take back your valuable ‘now’ time and be happier and contented.
So, take time to invest in yourself. Begin today. Let go of redundant thoughts, emotions, and habits and start living in the present. It’s a gift that you’ll soon learn to cherish.
What could you do to create a positive day!
“Yesterday is not ours to recover, but tomorrow is ours to win or to lose.” – Lyndon B. Johnson