How much do you choose to be unhappy?
When you hold on to negative thoughts, feelings or habits, do you have choice?
Are you struggling with something that happened yesterday, last month or years ago?
Can you choose to let go! In a flash! Right now!
Choose your mindset!
It seems hard to believe that people actually choose to spend time worrying or dwelling negatively on things that can’t be changed and yet that is exactly what happens every single day. I’ve done it. You’ve done it. We’ve all had episodes in our lives where we’ve allowed negativity to steal the best of us.
If you’re holding on to negative thoughts right now … perhaps worrying about that job interview you messed up, or dwelling on the horrible things someone once said to you, or angry at yourself for acting badly in a heated moment, or thinking with regret about the things you should have done when you had the opportunity, and so on … then it’s time to have a clear out and let go of all the feelings and habits that don’t support you.
Start by being mindful of your self-talk … that inner dialogue that may be feeding your attachment to what has been and gone.
Every time a negative thought, feeling or habit rears its head, replace it with a positive. I’ve had many clients saying “yeh! right!!!”. The thing is, you don’t have to think a positive thought about that situation…..choose to give it a break and go somewhere else in your mind. Visualise a sun set, take a deep breath or appreciate nature. Whatever makes you feel good.
This will take some time and dedication but, as you become aware of the thoughts and habits that dominate your day, you can change your outlook and perspective. Importantly, you can take back your valuable ‘now’ time and be happier and contented.
So, take time to invest in yourself. Begin today. Let go of redundant thoughts, emotions, and habits and start living in the present. It’s a gift that you’ll soon learn to cherish.
What could you do to create a positive day!
“Yesterday is not ours to recover, but tomorrow is ours to win or to lose.” – Lyndon B. Johnson
The two things I tend to hold onto are situations where I didn’t live my truth-wasn’t authentic, and where I handled a situation badly and carry the regret of how my actions affected someone I love. My issue is usually believing I’ll “feel” better when I correct the problem (i.e. try to make amends with someone I hurt or try to recreate a situation where I appear different), and yes, I know making amends with someone is ok, but trying to appear different isn’t, life is so messy,
and we create our own mess!
Yes! wouldn’t it be a wonderful world if we all lived authentically and didn’t feel responsible for others. This would have to be 2 of my core lessons. I think that the ‘mess’ you refer to, if I’ve got you right, is that not everyone can handle the truth and what is! Not everyone can be 100% responsible for themselves without feeling the pressure of being responsible for the other. When we reach a critical mass of living authentically and responsibly, the ‘mess’ will be much less. Let’s hang in there! Thanks for your comment, not sure if I’m on your wavelength this time?
You are on my wavelength, I think my comment was disjointed, sorry, had one of those days,